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Write to me about what's on your mind — I'll reply personally

Write to me about what's on your mind — a question you're stuck on, something you need to say out loud. I read every message and reply by email, usually within a few days.

Private. I read every one. I'll reply by email — usually within a few days. What I do with your message.

What this usually looks like

A made-up example, so you can see the shape of it. I never share what people actually send me.

"I've been with someone for two years and I think I decided to leave months ago. I keep finding reasons to stay one more week. How do I know if I'm being patient or just scared?"

What I'd write back, roughly: that the question already has its answer inside it — you said "decided," not "wondering." Then I'd ask what one more week is actually buying you, and whether the relationship you're staying for is the one that exists right now or the one you keep hoping will come back. No instruction to leave or to stay. Just the questions that make the real answer harder to avoid, and a reminder that you're allowed to choose yourself.

Not ready to write? That's okay. Start with the essays — a lot of what I'd say back is already in there — or read the free opening chapter of Aligned, which is where most of this started.